5 Minutes Longer

Ralph Waldo Emerson said “the hero is no braver than the ordinary man, but he is brave 5 minutes longer.” When I think of the things I can do 5 minutes longer in my life and the fact that this can make me a hero in the eyes of those I care about, I get inspired!


These are the 8 that came to me top of mind. Feel free to comment and add yours!

1) I can play catch with my son just 5 minutes longer.

2) I can listen to my children telling me about their day just 5 minutes longer.

3) I can massage my wife’s shoulders just 5 minutes longer.

4) I can wait for a late appointment just 5 minutes longer.

5) I can listen to a friend in distress just 5 minutes longer.

6) I can counsel a struggling co-worker just 5 minutes longer.

7) I can pray for a friend in need just 5 minutes longer.

8) I can let my son play just 5 minutes longer.

Wow, I can be hero. Time to go start making it happen!

Listen, Love, Limitless

For me life boils down to these 3 Ls.


Listen – listen intently and value others’ opinions. When I am in a conversation with someone, I have to be vigilant not to get caught in the trap of thinking about what I am going to say next while the other person is talking. Many people think of listening as a passive state. I would challenge you to go on the offensive with your listening skills. Be aggressive and listen intently.

Love – Love who you spend your time with and love what you spend your time doing. Life is way too short. If you don’t love it and it doesn’t add value, you really have to question why the heck you are doing it.

Limitless – I find that the person that puts the most limitations on me is, well, me. Each of us has something uniquely special to offer the world. I know this because each of us was created in a uniquely different way. There is constant chatter in the professional world around the importance of differentiating ourselves. My advice? If you want to differentiate yourself, be yourself! There is no one exactly like you.

So listen to really hear, love what you do, and don't limit yourself.  Go for it!

Shoot, Move, and Communicate!

I woke up this morning with an old Artillery cadence running through my head. Shoot, Move, and Communicate! (Yes I know I am a dork) I think there are some life lessons we can learn when we consider those three actions as a plan for success in any endeavor. BUT first we have to flip the script.

1) Communicate – don’t assume someone else knows your intentions, your goals, or your passions. Always keep an open dialogue with others. Remember to listen more than you talk.
2) Move – continually get yourself in position to win. The people you hang around, the choices you make, the books you read, the TV shows you watch all have an impact on you. Move into position to win by choosing what you let influence you.
3) Shoot – take action! Nothing will be accomplished until you get up off it and get on with it. Sometimes you will miss the mark, but keep on shooting and ultimately you will be successful in hitting your targets on a consistent basis.

Communicate, Move, Shoot – not as snazzy in a running cadence but is a better approach to the challenges in your life.

ENCOURAGE

When I woke up this morning, the word encourage popped into my head. According to Webster, encourage means to “inspire with courage, spirit, or hope”. So I think we should inspire one another at every opportunity. But the key is to do it with courage. Don’t let your insecurities stop you from inspiring someone else. Everyone has something to offer so be courageous! Also encourage with a genuine spirit. People can quickly see when you are just blowing smoke or tooting your own horn. Focus on the other person and not yourself and be genuine. Lastly reinforce the hope of a brighter future and better things to come. FDR said “when you come to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on”.

Inspire with courage, spirit, AND hope!

Bring It!

Remember Wonder Woman’s bracelets? Those things were awesome and nothing got past those bad boys. I created some imaginary WW bracelets today for myself. I will use them daily to fight off the negative others try to throw my way. I can’t let anything or anyone stand between me and my dreams and goals.

Wind Assist

Did my first yard work of the season yesterday. As I was blowing the grass clippings off the sidewalks and gutters, the strangest thing was happening. Every time I started the blower, the wind picked up in the same direction that I was blowing. It was like I had some kind of divine intervention assisting me with this task. Almost as if the Big Guy upstairs was saying in His best Crocodile Dundee voice, “that’s not a blower, this is blower!” I have a pretty sizable yard so I was kind of whooped when I was finished mowing so the assist I got with the blowing was very much appreciated. It was almost if I was being rewarded for my hard work with some help.

So of course it got me thinking about how I could apply this very strange but appreciated phenomenon to my life. I think that we all can use a little wind assist every now and then. Of course if you are an outdoor track and field athlete – particularly a sprinter or jumper – the wind assist is not what you want as that annoying * will be placed by your performance if you happen to set a record. Besides that I’m thinking a wind assist is a great thing to give and receive.

If I have given my all to a task, to solving a difficult problem, or to completing a complex project and I just can’t seem to get to the finish line, someone stepping in with a word of encouragement, a piece of information that produces an “Aha” moment, or rolling up their sleeves and helping me to get to completion can be huge. So how can we be that wind-assist for others?

1. As I mentioned above, an encouraging word might be all that person needs to give them the inspiration they need to complete their task and succeed. The person – co-worker, spouse, teammate, child, etc. – has probably given their all to the task and doesn’t think that anyone recognizes or appreciates their effort. A simple acknowledgement of that can be huge!

2. Often times we can get so close to something that we are working on that we can’t see the one or two obstacles that are keeping us from being successful. As a person who is on the ‘outside looking in’ you can see what that person may be missing and put that very last piece of the puzzle in place with just one statement or suggestion. Now that’s a wind assist there, I don’t care who you are.

3. Sometimes encouragement or a suggestion is not enough and what that person really needs is for you to roll up your sleeves and get in the trenches with them and help them with the task. Knowing that someone is in your corner to the point that they are willing to do whatever it takes – including ‘getting their hands dirty' – is inspiration and can be the best kind of wind assist.

Someone in your life can use a wind assist today. I just offer three potential ways you can help someone else out and reward them for their hard work. There are probably many more. So be creative and be someone’s wind today!

Taking the Starch Out

I was already dressed for work this morning when I started cleaning up my breakfast dishes. I did not roll up my sleeves so I got some water on my one of my sleeves. The starch immediately came out of that section of my shirt and until it is laundered and pressed again, it will not be the same. It’s not that big of a spot and no one else can really tell, so I decided not to change my shirt. But every time I look down at that spot, I am reminded that it really doesn’t take much to take the starch out of something but the effects can be lasting and permanent if not corrected.

I think we have the same power in our interactions with each other. Our words and actions can be damaging. We can say something or do something to someone (either directly or indirectly) that can take the starch right out of them. How quickly a person recovers from that has a lot to do with their level of self-esteem, self-awareness, and how much influence you have on them. Here are a few tips I came up with today.

1. Avoid ‘starch removers’ from the jump.
a. Think about what you are going to say or do before you say or do it. Think about how it will affect the receiver and decide before the beans are spilled whether it will have a positive effect on that person or if it is a potential starch remover.
b. If it takes 10 seconds to say or do something that can damage another person’s inspiration or energy, take 30 seconds before you say or do it and make sure it won’t potentially be damaging.

2. Be somebody’s biggest fan
a. If you focus on encouraging others and being supportive, it’s a lot tougher for those starch removers to slip out.
b. Spend your time thinking of ways to encourage – add starch to – others. The more positive you can pour into a person, there will be that much less room for starch removers to creep in.

3. What to do if one just slips out
a. If you have removed someone’s starch, don’t just blow it off and say that person needs to toughen up.
b. Take some time to understand what you said or did that caused the starch removal, apologize for it, drive on, and commit to not repeating it.
c. Provide some encouragement to that person and point out some of the great things they are doing. This will have the same effect as when as when I take my shirt back to the dry cleaners. It will be cleaned, pressed, and re-starched. Ready to take on a new day.

Someone is counting on you to encourage them and tell them they are awesome. Don’t let them down, do it today!

Dude, Give Me Two Minutes!

I used to get annoyed when I needed to talk to someone and they would say, “Dude, give me two minutes”. But now I realize the value in two minutes of focused time and how much I can get done. In two minutes or less I can: write a quick thank you note, finish off an email, make an appointment to get my oil changed (dang I need to do that), schedule a meeting, hug my wife and kids, download a cool song on iTunes, scan channels and decide what I want to watch on TV (it just seems longer to Mandi), get in 100 reps on that dreaded ab machine that kicks my butt every time, or read the highlights of a good story in the newspaper. My daughter really has this down because apparently she can study for a semester exam in two minutes or less!!

So the next time someone asks you to give them two minutes, don’t get annoyed – get productive.

Wait someone’s at my door. I just asked them to give me two minutes. (I need to post this blog!)

Dream Big!

The future is not promised. But yesterday today was the future and it is here. I believe what Eleanor Roosevelt said to be very true: “the future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.” So dream big today and tomorrow will belong to you!

CJ’s 3 Ss: Scribe, Share, and Stand. Scribe: It helps me to write down my goals and dreams. If they are in my face every day, it motivates me to do something today to get closer to them. Share: I share my dreams with others that are in my corner. It creates an instant cheering section and a team to keep me accountable. Stand: I stand by my dreams and never let anyone shake my tree. There will never be a short supply of peeps that will try to tell me I can’t accomplish my dreams. So I have to constantly stand strongly in the face of adversity.

Remember that today was yesterday’s tomorrow!

Deliver Quality!

I have a poster hanging outside of my office door that reads: To deliver quality means to deliver what our customers need and value. Nothing else will suffice!

Clearly that's a great approach to business process and product quality management but I am challenging myself to take that approach in other areas of my life.

If I look at each role I play (husband, parent, coach, friend, teammate)as an opportunity to deliver what my customers (wife, children, players, friend, teammate) need and value, I'll win and they'll win! Nothing else will suffice!

Squids on the Ground!

Squids on the ground

Squids on the ground

Lookin’ like a fool cause your Squids on the ground!

Punched in the mouth

Helmet turned sideways, Squids hit the ground.

Think you are all that but you’re looking like a fool,

Army’s O is driving and your Squids on the ground.

Yeah you beat us 9 years but we’re gonna turn it around,

This is our year fool now get your Squids off the ground!

Go Army, Beat Navy!

On, Brave Old Army Team!

The Army team's the pride and dream of every heart in gray.

The Army line you'll ever find a terror in the fray.

And when the team is fighting for the Black and Gray and Gold,

We're always near with song and cheer and this is the tale we're told:

The Army team - Rah Rah Rah – Boom!

On, brave old Army team, On to the fray, Fight on to victory, For that's the fearless Army way!!

Am I That Guy?

Am I the guy that everyone wants on their team? Everyone wants that guy because they know that in good times and in bad times, I will stand in the gap. They know that I will do whatever it takes to help them succeed and achieve their dreams well ahead of mine. They know that I will be strong and steadfast in my opinion and confident in my expertise but will also listen intently to their input and earnestly consider it. They know that to me TEAM means 'together everyone accomplishes more' and I will bring everything I have to every task. They know I will work hard and play harder and never, ever take myself too seriously. They know that quit is not in my vocabulary and I will fight until the final bell, play until the gun goes off, and run until I cross the finish line.

Am I that guy? I'm working on it.

It's Simple

Simply do what is required but do it with ferociousness and integrity.

Simply communicate with others but do it succinctly, thoroughly, and with candor.

Simply be the best you that you can be but be you with transparency.

Simply correct wrongs you have done but do it quickly and with a plan to not repeat them.

Simply forgive but forgive without distain and forget expeditiously.

Simply love but love without conditions.

See, it’s simple.

CJ’s 3 Ps – Present, Personal, and Personable

I love the advances in technology. I love the gadgets and all the conveniences, efficiency, and connectivity that they have to offer. As I saw a woman and her friend at an intersection around the corner from work this morning, I had a thought that maybe all of this technology also serves to pull us further apart. I was in the left turn lane and a woman pulled up to the intersection on the corner to my left. Just as she was about to make a right turn, her car died. My very first thought was I need to see if I can go over there and assist. It would have taken me some time to get back to her. I was trapped by the traffic light though and as I looked over, I realized that she wasn’t panicking. Also what was interesting is that all of the vehicles behind her were simply going around. Then I thought you know, she probably has a cell phone – who doesn’t – so she’ll be fine.

No one stopped to assist, asked her if she was ok, and a couple of dudes even looked annoyed that they had to inconvenience themselves by going around her. I remember a time not too long ago when people would stop and offer to help someone who was in need. These days I think we just assume that everyone has a cell phone, AAA, or something along those lines.

No matter how advanced we get, we should never forget the power of personal contact. Even in our relationships we seem to choose the convenience and speed of sending a text message over talking, most of the time. I mean I can’t even tell you the last time I actually took the time to write a letter, put it in an envelope, put a stamp on that bad boy, and mail it. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not ready to hand over my smartphones or my laptops just yet. But I will make an effort to be more present, personal and personable in my interactions with people.

All The King's Men Needed Some Super Glue

Humpty Dumpty sat on a wall;
Humpty Dumpty had a great fall.
All the King's horses,
And all the King's men,
Couldn't put Humpty together again!


This classic nursery rhyme has been on repeat in my head all day today. When it first popped into my head, my first thought was clearly they didn't have Super Glue when this little ditty was written. I'm thinking Super Glue would've hooked Humpty right up.

As the day has gone on I got to thinking about how awesome it is that I have some Super Glue in my life. When I fall, as I often do, I can count on the Super Glue in my life to put me back together again. While the actual Super Glue has ingredients like Propenoic Acid and Ethyl Cyanoacrylate, my Super Glue has ingredients like the love and support of my awesome wife, support and love of great friends, the love of family that surpasses anything I could screw up, the encouragement of my children who tell me that no matter what they love me and are glad I am their dad, business relationships that I know have my best interest in mind, and peeps I can call on day or night and talk about anything under the sun.

Sure hate it for you Humpty but this brother has some folks in my life that can put me back together again. No matter how great the fall.

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Today Matters!

I believe more than ever that every day matters. We can't get yesterday back and tomorrow is not promised. But we can make the most of today and have a plan to do better tomorrow. Family matters, true friendships matter, relationships matter. I can make it my goal each day to be the best me I can be. So that is my goal. I can let the people who love and care about me know that I appreciate them and stand my ground when negative and dissent try to come in. It's all good except for the parts that aren't, and I won't spend any time or emotional energy on the parts that aren't.

Can't Complain!

Off work today and loving the time away from the grind. Saw both kids off to school this morning. Got a nice walk in. Enjoyed a cup of coffee at a relaxed pace. The pool is clean and now I get to spend the rest of the day with my lovely bride. Think we'll pick up a new picnic table today for poolside and have a burger at this really good new place we found. (Sorry Steak n Shake - LOL) Thinking of checking out Tyler Perry's new flick tonight. Halleluyer!!!!

Happy to report that Little Man has almost completely shaken this virus. Yes!!!

Victoria had a great week! She qualified for regionals for long jump, triple jump, AND the 300 meter hurdles. The day after that she tried out for and made the Varsity Cheer Team. I have a legit excuse now to go to every Varsity football game in the fall. : )

Life is good, can't complain!

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